Life Goes On

We are the last generation left. The only difference is we're just replacing new names in the same stories already lived. I share this with my family "people will visit into your life" some will stay for a moment if not a lifetime. So allow temporary people to only take away, what they walked in with once they take that exit. 

We all face situations with people in our lives; that raise the point of concern to question, WHY? When life in the hood is never good for everyone, to continue in living it out in our minds. Here's my story line.

I received a call one day from an old friend, who had buried a young wife and best friend in his life. So I knew from his tone he did not sound the same. As I listened to what he had to say. I could clearly hear the clarity of “uncertainty”. Only because I was familiar with his past so many years of investment. I made a vow to be his ride or die in this friendship. And at any given time this old friend could of ask “how has your life been” which never happened.  The conversation proceeded “I’ll be in town and it would be nice if you would come and hang out”. Immediately I said “no doubt” even though I knew in my heart this friendship had grown apart; because I stepped into my maturity a long time ago. But it could not hurt to see my old friend and laugh; once again as we always did. I arrived on the scene and it was no surprise that the atmosphere reminded of pages we should have jumped off of. So I did not hate on  his parade, we've lost to many along the way.  As the evening began to slowly grind. The air grew thick with mist as “JP” slammed his famous hits. Several women flashed their natural derriere’s bouncing off the walls; as men touched and glared. And yet we wonder why our “relationships” come easy then quit "quick ". But I'm not mad at anyone who expresses their freedom in action. And yes, I’m for having a good time whether in a slow pace or fast grind. I just miss the old days in a new time of change.   

The moral of this story is no matter what your relationship is. People are destined to emotionally and physically change “with time and age” so “you can either choose to accept or disassociate yourself from “copying” the Identify of someone else. Because we are destined to be impacted by what happens of challenging our individual understanding. I just pray at this level  of our lives we embrace more of life.

I occasionally will say I’m familiar with hard times and people who are there to witness everything. So we become accustomed to the environment we once knew. At the next level of a new space. We tend to find the same atmosphere to remind us of "we're still living there".

A love one calls because they are internally alone. But life has got you caught up in family, kids, careers, financial struggles, relationships and marriages. And sometimes you feel emotionally, lifeless. So what do you do where in some cases people feel their purpose is found in clutters of things to do, some people feel obligated to put everyone else before themselves, some people will only support themselves and silently seek emotional pity from everyone else.   The moral to this story is you must prioritize and decide what is of a priority in your life. While you’re living before you die.

A new job opportunity has finally made a landing. And it’s not what you want but it will supplement what you did not have, or struggle with people to get. Which is a way to stabilize an “honest living” in hours that are tedious, the work load is strenuous, the pay fluctuates, people are full of jive talk and the politics are set in place, DAILY. But the minor detail we have missed is who is teaching our kids. So they understand how struggles are already predestined if we don’t properly add to their thinking of reading, math and writing. And I understand public and private education is the plan where ordinary people are also dealing with the “same hand”. The moral to this story is never become dependent on what has been set in place, to distract you from what is already destined to change. 

A tiny child looked into my eyes & ask me last night "why do you leave us & return". I smiled & took her hand " to say I will never leave you my child" but I must know certain "barter deals" to survive and "courage, knowledge & wisdom" will keep you alive. Before people & this story unwinds". She said what do mean, auntie. I said people are up to old tricks in new times. And the world will never be the same "look into the eyes & not so much of the lines". So auntie will stay on top of "game". In order for this family too survive. So it is relevant my child we all recognize the 🕙 that we stretch out in our human minds.

Life is what you put into it. Lessons and Wisdom is what you walk away with. 

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There will come a time to create some space or walk away from certain relationships. Reasoning being is that you don’t have the time to rewind where you have been to accommodate where another person does not see the both of you growing. It would behoove you to stick with your own mission.

Something's telling me somewhere in time that we are destined to meet that, one. Why, because sometimes we do get it right the first time in life where no man or woman will ever reach the pinnacles of perfection in relationships. But we do have to establish with whom we can deal with, and to prepare for life’s unexpected. While watching time fly bye never hold the responsibility that we are the finished product in a failed relationship. The cycles have to be broken that existed from our past generations. So the question is "If we could find the perfect someone" would we recognize them? Or would we brainstorm and compare them with the past of our relationships. And it's not always a bad memory. Sometimes life just happens so just stay prepared for the unexpected. To get pass what we get caught up in. Of what the last person did to break our trust, and shatter our emotions.     

 Therefore looking for substitutions just won't work immediately. You need time to heal before jumping into someone else new. And never allow someone to make you feel GUILTY of knowing EXACTLY what you need. People often judge you as the problem when they are still in their burdened emotions. There is some laughter in that. Some time we think we know everything about one another. So therefore we assume who will stick around. To only find out we're also being judged in what we neglected to communicate with that other person who showed compassion. Life is funny that way. In reminding us we all must change & communicate effectively. 

When someone is thinking about you, they don’t just think about reaching out to you.

When a man or woman chooses to sacrifice you don't have to ponder with “if it's you they will not think about twice”. This man or woman will show up at any given moment in time. 

When people are brittle in their hearts, not every man or woman is invited into mend it. Be careful of how much time you invest in.

When someone misses holding you, they don’t just “occupy” that space with anybody in your place.  

When people don’t know what they want, it is not a “mirage”. Allow them to seek who they want and what they need.

What we see with our eyes, may not play out in real life. When women carry every emotion they feel in their heart, some men care from in between their legs. While the remainder of those men who really are searching for the “entire package”. To execute some “plans” involving compromise and real commitments” in places that are not within a ½ inch of understanding, rejections and limitations.

No one really knows why love chooses random people. Maybe we just make the choice for love and choose whom we want to love. So how about we first teach one another, how to be there for each other.