If a man or woman spills their heart to you of what could have been of a lost relationship that never developed because of the distance it's only an excuse. Because that person is secure of what they are not planning to do, which is making the "sacrifice" to secure a life with you.
No man or woman was created and meant to be alone but when the direction of the relationship goes unclear never be afraid to accept the truth of what people speak but lack the vision to do of working towards a committed relationship with you.