Incest

To all the young girls & boys around the world listen closely to the story that is not a tale.

One day you will see how Life will be your greatest mentor and the reason why is there will be a few struggles you will face in this life. And no matter how mommy or daddy, grandparents or siblings try to protect you please understand life comes with minimum directions and many learned lessons.

So you are wondering why me. The answer is; only life knows how your true story will be told. And in abusive or sexual situations the adult stranger, family member or friend will say ''I love you with cuddles and gifts" in a sympathetic way.  But in that moment you may not identify with what is happening between your legs. Just know this when someone touches you or ask you to do things to their bodies it’s not ok if mommy & daddy, grandma or grandpa, uncle & aunt are not around to watch how you're playing around.

One day a young child innocently played with a familiar face until the game changed and this person was no longer the same. So this person with whom this child trusted betrayed their friendship now this child feels alone and brokenhearted because no one is listening. So what does this child soon to be grownup do when the stranger is really a parent, family member or friend that in some situations are invited guest due to your self-choices.

A child was walking home from school as a stranger approached and seemed "lost" and within a second this child was gone.

A stranger is not always someone you have never met. A stranger has a different approach when both mommy and daddy are not around to ensure your smile is not turned upside down.

A piece of candy is great but you could a cavity, a ride home from mom or dads friends is OK but not unless your parents directly told you "yes". And if anyone hurts you in a bad way and say's "its ok" immediately ask your parents, auntie or uncles if this kind of touch is OK.

It takes one second to communicate through texting. It takes people years to walk away from unhealthy relationships. It takes 5 minutes to find a date on social media.  It takes a one-time conversation to share our personal information. It takes 8 to 12 hours in a day to commute back and forth from work. So why not listen to what our children have to say even if it takes 1 moment to hear about their day!

Finding Hope

How is it some people fall in love with their eyes and not with their hearts? Why is it some people who are married silently fall apart? Then desperately seek attention outside of their marriage.

Why do people say "I love you" over the weekend or before you spread your legs. How can a person say "you make me treat you a certain way" then have sex with you mentally with no regrets. And if your heart is not stationed between your legs you will identify an "excuse" that maintains the strong hold on you.

When are people really over an inconclusive "friendship or past relationship" if all they do is repeat the issues they have yet to deal with. And if we really knew one another the way we think we do. Then why do we continue to choose the same avenues?

I was asked by a reader who read my blog “how do I know people will find hope by reading this blog"? I simply said hope is something a person must seek individually. The reader proceeded to say in the world we live in people are desperate to hold onto what they have regardless if it’s a sense of temporary contentment. Immediately I responded with this statement "individuality does not mean collectively". So in order for any human being who seeks hope they will either become content with whom or what they are in. Are they may choose an alternate plan to finding their own hope which may seem like "insanity" which is no different from the hope, you seek to understand in humanities boys & girls, women and men.