We're only bent, not broken in our struggles.
Since the first blog I tagged on Domestic Violence.
I took some time to not so much understand why it has to happen. But what can be
done “in support” of to end the ongoing violence.
It does not matter what age we are, female or male “domestic
violence and abuse occurs even in the tiniest of youth” around this entire
world. Unfortunately society is filled with distractions. And the abuse repeats in our own homes where some will loose
their will to make one move.
So the question is how does abuse gain trust? How frequent are material things involved. And how can
a person find refuge even in children? Why are there not more resources
in a growing population of human beings; with substance abuse, chemical imbalances and lost in hope to reason?
The abuser preys on trust. Children show innocence, adults
demonstrate vulnerability even in areas they show strength. Systems are doorways to implement hidden inhuman acts. People get weak in decision making. Elders hold onto their independence, but feeble is what the abuser seeks of opportunity? And on any day a family member, mother or father, old friend in beginning
of a new relationship, a person of interest or a husband or same sex partner can
“mentally or physically” increase from 0 to 1,000.
Mental and Physical abuse can make a person feel embarrassed, used and hopeless of being valued. This person feels lost and out of control if not mentally depressed and unnoticed in the eyes of their family and peers. Small children act out and seek affection and attention especially in environments that demonstrate unequal foundations. When someone has hurt you and tells you it’s ok. I love you and don’t leave I will change or stay for the family. If you are hurting in any way today; ask yourself the question what is making me stay and do I love “myself” enough to walk away; without taking one thing?
I lived this story as a small child. I myself covered the scars and sheltered my mother with intense love. It was "her will" to survive that kept her children alive. So the trauma did heal overtime. We accepted there was nothing we could have changed about ourselves or we did wrong. Unfortunately the abuse could occur at anytime. And one day did "take time" to replace the value back in ourselves.
