A family will have and make due in their differences. No matter whose your's is. We all have to mature in our own skin to respect one another in our choices. And when we choose to do things in our own way people do show distress in processing our change.
One thing I've noticed in any family. Is the influence we have over one another; good or bad. So therefore we can't possibly please one another enough; no matter what we attempt to do. Or prove "I do love, need and respect you". Because at the end of the day no matter what life sends our way; we still seek that protection and love from our family. And if you are disconnected from your family tree, then it's who you consider to be their in place of your blood line family.
People have lost relationships due to family influence. And in some cases the partition may have been for that person's well being and interest. Because family know who their love one really is. But not who they become in their own private relationships.Or in search of themselves to find or figure out what their own happiness should be about.
How is it we manage to connect with people and create a strong bond or extended family? Such as a new significant other, a baby daddy or baby momma, friends who become important in our lives. The fact is that we cannot deny the bonds we make then seek of; companionship, protection, love and mutual understandings. But when we no longer can agree to disagree. Things and people change in reasoning. And what I mean is you're no longer granted permission to be your own person with a purpose and direction. Why, because of INFLUENCE that re-directs our focus.
I hear people say it everyday; I love my family but sometimes at a distance that is required to keep us in coordination.
I meet widows that are men and woman. They do get lonely and need that lingering touch and attention. So family comforts them the best they know how by safeguarding their lonely vulnerable hearts. Just be careful to not make it about yourself's. Are one day you will see they were just holding on hoping one day you would finally be happy.
I hear young people say "they don't get it bro", but what has not been done or heard under the son in the world we live in.
I hear a man tell a woman can you help me. The woman says you never come through when I need you. The man then said I can get some help, but I thought I could ask you first. But maybe its because the two woman he has really don't serve up to a full purpose.
I met a young woman who had an arranged marriage. Her family chose the man she will love and care for.
I met a woman who said this man I reside with for the past 11 years has to make a change, The problem is this man is still married with kids, And a girlfriend who unfortunately passed away last year.
I met a man with a plan. He is financially set. The story is he has 3 kids by 2 different woman. In which he has no problem with taking care of them. But any woman that comes into his life will take a seat until its her time.
I met single woman and men who said "I've got great friends" who I call on for things. But what they had to say where things you would not believe.
We all know family is the makeup in who we are, not what we become. And the purpose for the scenarios were to see how Influence and people make decisions and connections.
We believe we are strong, so we fight to accept the areas in which we are weak, We hurt when our efforts are not enough. We fear of being abandoned. We grow angry in our disappointments.We criticize what we reject. We rationalize in facing our own situations. We continue to create new relationships but we never deal with ourselves in a space we forgive.
