Therefore some people who will
say “they prefer no kids”. Good luck with that. Just pray this person is not selfish.
Then there are those people who will say the children struggle from resentment
of a missing paternal parent. Some people will attempt to buy the child or
children’s respect. Some parent may be bitter because the relationship did not
work. Some people will end up with other people who cannot bare kids, so they make
a pack to in pregnate the surrogate. Some people will come straight in with tough love. And put
in work. And sometimes they may or not be appreciated in worth.
Regardless of what your relationship
status is or if you’re looking to be involved with other people with kids. The reality is
we’re all trying to figure out what works and fits in this puzzle call life.
So why do we write off our
happiness? If we can't stay together and make it work then we have to decide
whether it’s time to move forward and let go. Before letting our feelings get
to low.
Confusion stems from not knowing what is changing in our lives.
Letting go means we have to start on a new chapter. Learning is a part of the
process of what is dormant in the genetics; that already existed in which we struggle to understand in one another's head & actions. Because once
we cohabitate in more than many ways; we will create bonds then later learn who we are, then become.
If a man work’s to support his responsibilities; is he wrong to
rationalize if that woman is not standing up right by his side, because some
men and woman are committed even when time test their patience.
If a child see's his father or mother with another woman or man?
What affect does it carry through their life until they are no longer children?
If a child has witnessed mental or physical abuse; what will happen
if they have not worked on themselves?
If a person has experienced infidelity; how do we immediately expect
them to respect change?
If a person has been hurt and rejected; how can we say they have issues. Without admitting our own contributions?
Once you get passed the sting of disappointment or moving on. Take a moment to recap what could of been better or worse in that relationship. Then allow yourself permission to process what we don't take accountability for in ourselves.
