Mom loved & said to me don't rush to marry people, not everyone is meant for each other. Time we have, it's just not forever. Daddy serviced his country & said invest with a man who is not afraid to labor with his hands just to be married into a family. Grandma a valedictorian died at 90 & left me recipes; to survive as needed. Great Uncle serviced his country & died at 92 but before he left his fishing gear was a reminder to leave us with a broader mental. Grandpa died at 99 with 65 years of a respectable marriage. And collectively I got me; service of 32 Uncles & loving Aunts. The great still to be accounted.
On this Labor Day weekend while on that old road 1322. I stop my car & imagined how my people worked on those acres of cotton fields for hours. And I became saddened for their distressed souls; did not find a peace of mind laying in those shallow graves, not far from behind that old church where we gently laid our grandfather to rest. But at the event there was stories by the children who lived in those white houses & ate with polished silver who missed the love those colored people gave them. The real stories this generation will not partake in because of seeing and knowing who are leaving with the family fortunes. Our current generations will struggle to find in buried in graves over our time.
I had dinner with some friends and all the woman spoke of; was when God sends me a decent man, love my kids, and to advance in their careers. I heard an elder married man told his married son "there are more fish in the sea, until his son said to his dad "there are more fish in the sea", the dad said to the son "but son your momma is whale". This is real when we can't say when life deals us our own hands.
I spoke with a a man who took another person's life; I said to this man "cause and effect" will drive a person into situations, then later regrets. This man said "precious child" nothing is sweeter than freedom. Be wise about people and "process your anger, that will be tested beyond limits". I said "thank you great cousin" I knew down the Blood line you would share some WISDOM.
I had dinner with classmates; and all they talked about where kids, careers, divorces and marriages. Some talked about early retirement in their 40"s, and the highs and lows of establishing their own or family businesses.
I had a dinner with the millennial's and all they talked about was; social media, dating, start-up business and using book sense in the corporate world. Which is great until they have to deal with real life. The pastor said I was one of many that respected your grand father Mr. Carter who also was related to successful people. That always came back to revisit the family. So people made it a point to associate themselves with the Carter family. Because of what they were about; wealthy givers in faith is why people respect those roots that continue to connect; throughout this family's generations.
I watched movies with a single man; and all he talked about was building a foundation with a woman who used her brain and has a good ♥. Not every man needs a female to find out; they wasted both of their time, playing house. I finally figured out how capable it is to share your gifts. But I also know that value is how we communicate & love ourselves.
I had dinner with my married friends who had been together for over 10 to 20's. Some couples said people change for the best or even worse, some said infidelity was a struggle to forgive reason being it kept happening over and over; again. Some couples said the arguing, mental & physical a bruise become to much to bare; children do grow up in dysfunctional homes some where the struggles can push a person in that relationship to the hospital bed then grave yard, alcohol, smoking & drugs. Finally, the largest portion said communication, finances and careers played a big role; and if you date to find a person who can find fault in themselves "together" any relationship can "work out". I did not lose people who were not meant to add to my life. I gained back people who would stand with me through any fight.
I had a parental chat with my son; and I was not amazed to understand what the woman in his life love. However once he re-routed the conversation. I said son life is not all about you, seek to be a better person and then you can stand firm on your peace of mind, happiness & standards. Any woman can make kids with a man. But parents figure out a ROCK SOLID plan. To continue this bloodline we must educate our people on one page with respect.
I attended a ceremony with over 300 family members; I observed the blended families and physical traits. I observed the crazy uncles who love living life, and live around the world. I observed the youth socialize, I observed the elders sit back & watch the world of generations they will eventually leave behind. I processed as much wisdom & knowledge my mind could hold. I learned that my "wealth" is where I come from, because of the seeds that were already PLANTED in my family of generations. FYI, even as a child all the woman & men in my life gave and received hugs and kisses, and talked it out when things were not right.
In a summer course of taking "Sociology" we viewed a film on social classes. Once completed the class was asked about sexuality, racism, could we marry a person who worked in a lower wage job, with or without any education? And if you could marry outside of your race, and why?
Of course every student had their own morals, values and beliefs in reasoning. But my response was I know the feeling of poverty, I know the mutual feeling of love, I know our beliefs come with compromise, I know the strategy of economics in cultures, I understand your questions but as human beings can we ever process then respect; our individuals answers. And Yes, in the event this person is capable and reflects the characteristics of knowing his own standards, visions and direction. Of course someone questioned my answers and said why do we as a "people settle", I replied sometimes we should read a book before we judge the cover, we should experience more of life than seclude ourselves from it. And more than often we ourselves should evaluate what we consider what is it we call; a long or short term investment.
Before I attended college & exposed to real ADULT experiences, I made a point to invest of my time learning from other graduates, of life. I surrounded myself with experienced, positive & negative thinkers; no matter the results of their positive or negative circumstances.
I got to go; Its time to taste the smell of coffee brewing, aunties scratch breakfast & elders conversations around the table.
On this Labor Day weekend while on that old road 1322. I stop my car & imagined how my people worked on those acres of cotton fields for hours. And I became saddened for their distressed souls; did not find a peace of mind laying in those shallow graves, not far from behind that old church where we gently laid our grandfather to rest. But at the event there was stories by the children who lived in those white houses & ate with polished silver who missed the love those colored people gave them. The real stories this generation will not partake in because of seeing and knowing who are leaving with the family fortunes. Our current generations will struggle to find in buried in graves over our time.
I had dinner with some friends and all the woman spoke of; was when God sends me a decent man, love my kids, and to advance in their careers. I heard an elder married man told his married son "there are more fish in the sea, until his son said to his dad "there are more fish in the sea", the dad said to the son "but son your momma is whale". This is real when we can't say when life deals us our own hands.
I spoke with a a man who took another person's life; I said to this man "cause and effect" will drive a person into situations, then later regrets. This man said "precious child" nothing is sweeter than freedom. Be wise about people and "process your anger, that will be tested beyond limits". I said "thank you great cousin" I knew down the Blood line you would share some WISDOM.
I had dinner with classmates; and all they talked about where kids, careers, divorces and marriages. Some talked about early retirement in their 40"s, and the highs and lows of establishing their own or family businesses.
I had a dinner with the millennial's and all they talked about was; social media, dating, start-up business and using book sense in the corporate world. Which is great until they have to deal with real life. The pastor said I was one of many that respected your grand father Mr. Carter who also was related to successful people. That always came back to revisit the family. So people made it a point to associate themselves with the Carter family. Because of what they were about; wealthy givers in faith is why people respect those roots that continue to connect; throughout this family's generations.
I watched movies with a single man; and all he talked about was building a foundation with a woman who used her brain and has a good ♥. Not every man needs a female to find out; they wasted both of their time, playing house. I finally figured out how capable it is to share your gifts. But I also know that value is how we communicate & love ourselves.
I had dinner with my married friends who had been together for over 10 to 20's. Some couples said people change for the best or even worse, some said infidelity was a struggle to forgive reason being it kept happening over and over; again. Some couples said the arguing, mental & physical a bruise become to much to bare; children do grow up in dysfunctional homes some where the struggles can push a person in that relationship to the hospital bed then grave yard, alcohol, smoking & drugs. Finally, the largest portion said communication, finances and careers played a big role; and if you date to find a person who can find fault in themselves "together" any relationship can "work out". I did not lose people who were not meant to add to my life. I gained back people who would stand with me through any fight.
I had a parental chat with my son; and I was not amazed to understand what the woman in his life love. However once he re-routed the conversation. I said son life is not all about you, seek to be a better person and then you can stand firm on your peace of mind, happiness & standards. Any woman can make kids with a man. But parents figure out a ROCK SOLID plan. To continue this bloodline we must educate our people on one page with respect.
I attended a ceremony with over 300 family members; I observed the blended families and physical traits. I observed the crazy uncles who love living life, and live around the world. I observed the youth socialize, I observed the elders sit back & watch the world of generations they will eventually leave behind. I processed as much wisdom & knowledge my mind could hold. I learned that my "wealth" is where I come from, because of the seeds that were already PLANTED in my family of generations. FYI, even as a child all the woman & men in my life gave and received hugs and kisses, and talked it out when things were not right.
In a summer course of taking "Sociology" we viewed a film on social classes. Once completed the class was asked about sexuality, racism, could we marry a person who worked in a lower wage job, with or without any education? And if you could marry outside of your race, and why?
Of course every student had their own morals, values and beliefs in reasoning. But my response was I know the feeling of poverty, I know the mutual feeling of love, I know our beliefs come with compromise, I know the strategy of economics in cultures, I understand your questions but as human beings can we ever process then respect; our individuals answers. And Yes, in the event this person is capable and reflects the characteristics of knowing his own standards, visions and direction. Of course someone questioned my answers and said why do we as a "people settle", I replied sometimes we should read a book before we judge the cover, we should experience more of life than seclude ourselves from it. And more than often we ourselves should evaluate what we consider what is it we call; a long or short term investment.
Before I attended college & exposed to real ADULT experiences, I made a point to invest of my time learning from other graduates, of life. I surrounded myself with experienced, positive & negative thinkers; no matter the results of their positive or negative circumstances.
I got to go; Its time to taste the smell of coffee brewing, aunties scratch breakfast & elders conversations around the table.
