Relationships

People talk about money over love; but without human appreciation either one will cause; pain & disrespect. Either we be more honest about where we are, not what we are waiting around on; to come. 

We are taught to be married "until death do us apart", no one ever prepared us for lesser than a comfort level, trust & not meeting all expectations that come with trials and test. To figure out we need more time to grow-up, even more in marriages starting in the stages of relationships.

But if you have managed to find the special ingredients in your relationships; of layering the heavy duty bricks on a solid foundation, secure of the willingness to communicate & forgive, and capable to encourage one another through the struggles; this passage is not meant for you. Be the example for other people who are struggling with one another to make it through; what is possible if both parties desire to see it through.

No pun intended cheating is a phrase we use to give the guilt a title; as human beings we will continue in seeking the (missing) inside us. Until we figure out how to fight our own internal battles with the support of family. They just can't decide for us our choices. So when married couples mention a Divorce then how do Single people get involved in relationships with married people, and congregating without your mate with other married people; does not make the title change? We are all  searching to be completed with someone who is capable of giving us what we need. And in the event all parties involve live with the burdens and hurt. Before we make a move to either work on our issues then discover the reason for staying is attached to the Title.

Single is a state of being, without or with someone to share a common space, prayers, families, investments, interest and ideas. No different than married people who either share all or a few of these committed establishments. We all get it. But what is it about finding

Time: to look inside of what we have or not.  

Progress: in what we are growing towards are not.

Growth: that either ties us together or stresses us back apart. Every couple has their own scenario, but almost 99.9% it is the same challenge we all deal with; money-money, feeling unappreciated, bored-loneliness-illness in the relationship, age and death, finding change that makes us happy without giving up the years of invested misery. And sometimes just having you is not enough it’s gets deeper. Why

Time: requires the both of our attention to check-in; no one else has the answers to unlock what we are missing physically, mentally and spiritually. We both have to be available to communicate these feelings. 

Progress: is made with another person & in our self’s. Taking more time to figure that out alleviates who get's what of the (tangible stuff), either way it's a humbling, cold or bitter place.  

The Level of Growth we have gained from our lessons and just knowing who we are; to no longer settle for anything other than what adds to our; values.

So no Single people or not lonely,  Married people are forever trying; and fear it what confuses everything. Because not every person or choice of mate is meant or capable of staying with you. You both have to decide how to FIGHT, or either prepare to LET GO of what has not grown.