Boys need strong men role models in their lives to teach them manly things and instill in them of how to take care of themselves; and girls need woman to teach them the value in strength, love and how surving in a world of diverse classes of people; teaches you the importance of valuing yourself. And yes, there is a possibility where families values, morals and beliefs are unstructured. So this boy becomes acclimated in this environment of figuring out his own man. He will display some resentment & rebellion because of the absence of a biological father if not misguided role model. He will challenge the replacement of a role male model. Simply because he needs the truth of who he belonged or still belongs to, and what he needs to learn to become this man. The reality all boys belong to a bloodline in which they are a fathers blood heir. The reasoning to why some boys strive in the quality of their life; is because they sense they have 1. According to what the guardians are establishing of knowledge and of stability. Even if a mixture of family or friends are involved in the support or temporary care of performing as role models in the presence of a boy. This applies to girls, as well. The the role models must play a significant & stronger mature role. For this girl or boy to process his or her own change into men/woman in their own skin.
At 20 years of age, a single mother I gave birth to my only son. Unfortunately his life was taken at 28years of age. Most people say "its sad, the young die to soon". I respond Gods plans are not ours. And God did allow our son to leave love in tiny footprints. And the trusting hearts of the women that are left to mold his children. I taught my boy how to identity with love; and acknowledgment of understanding his own body and feelings. I taught Dominique to identify his strengths by surrounding him in circles of men in empowerment. I taught him to use his physical body to perform endurance and to use his mind to think for himself but mold it; as your most powerful weapon. And do not allow anyone to gain inappropriate access, or use manipulation to possession it.
A bandaid on a wound only covers the surface; underneath that wound may or not be healing. Look around young men struggle. And woman seek strong men to help raise these boys. Even If she struggles to do it herself this woman has to be more careful; of who she alows in her house.
Our boys are the kings we birth; for every princess a prince is being molded for her. In a world of wars, emperors,generals, kernals, commanders and chiefs. What we should be in fear of is whether theese boys are growing up without; the teachings of strong men that have been educated with life experience.
A woman can groom children to love. Her girl she needs to emulate her and the son needs to be molded to protect them both. And at the end of the day this boy should understand what is the makeup of him growing into a man. So that he is not misguided in his own male skin. And dominated by any type of woman because of the love his mother taught him; by challenging his masculinity; based on how his daddy was around or not. And the next man who steps In if not step-Up.
