Prov 19:21
Why is dating so complicated. When in dating people are single & looking to mingle. And for some people they seem to find a justifiable reasoning to say someone else is so demanding.
Why is it some people wait around. For a phone call are text and always asking do you love me; just to be seen for a sec. To then resume looking for companionship. And I'm talking about in all races and age categories.
I admit as a young girl; I did foolish things, ask foolish questions, and acted out dealing with unnecessary people. Then one day the light bulb came on and I was over waiting and asking redundant rhetorical questions at the age of common sense. To figure out; what insanity is all about.
If you are looking for love on the rebound; take more than a moment to breathe. Especially if you have children. I often advise young girls and young men; love is not guaranteed from between our legs are producing innocent kids. And married folks need time to figure who is who, where they are going, if not doing what? Especially if it's not together. I know, the truth is a harder pill to swallow. But some people even I struggle with processing; how the grass looks greener on the other side. And the side you already stand on; is slowing sinking in quick sand. Then a good man or woman will eventually come around if not stay on a solid foundation. But be patient in the meantime.. not all people desire to to work as hard; wasting time carrying another person's old baggage.
Dating is complicated. Only if the placement on expectations is on another person; without first working on the expectations some one may want out of you, as well.
Marriage is beautiful, if you're in the ring fighting together. Dating is fun if you both establish a mature understanding. And relationships is work; especially if you force the obligations without first establishing who is committed.
I s/w a male friend tonight. He ask how do you manage being single? I been to the magic show; and seen plenty of characters come & go. And if we listen for more understanding those love struggles would be limited. See we all have experienced some type of emotional chemistry. I heard a lot of things; and watched a multitude of men woman is desperate just to have companionship. I watched people promise one another "I got his are her back then snatch the children and be mistreated by another man or woman. So no I don't entertain what people want from you. And the moment you need; there is a debate over the conversations that created accountability. The truth is some people not all. No matter the status; work on themselve instead of finding somebody instantly to show them how to feel. if not love on themselves.
I raised a man. He was not perfect, he was boy first. Before he stretched into working on himself and nothing less of a man. He knew was taught how to listen first then communicate, he knew mentally & physically how to fight. Dee knew love, compassion & how to humble himself to receive love; back. Unfortunately agape love is not equivocal to worldly love. If only more people experienced love in themselves; 1st. So many generations would deal in a broader mindset of not making each other feel emotionally obligated for their own choices; to exist in broken spirits.
If anybody ask; who writes this. Well look around over generations. Who still asking "do you still want r need me, you don't want anytpe of relationship? Are when will u be planning on leaving him are her with the kid's? Tell yourself; what I accept today. I may end up with nothing & and for what feels like a lifetime of searching.
I read a passage in Jeremiah 17: 9 KJV "the heart is deceitful, who can know it, it's wicked". And If we take more time to work on our hearts and ask God for wisdom in our minds.
In search of Love over generations.
