SON's one day as young men & young woman; you will breed a new generation of children. And before you begin to congregate. Research the type of person you will either choose to live in a state of domestication or Cohabitate; in a behavior of Surruptitious activities.
I remember during my highschool & college days there were 2 professors that pronunciated familiar words with enthusiasm. First, word was 'Cohabitation', and the Second word was 'Surruptitious'. I remember these words because of the enthusiasm each professor demonstrated in speaking to their audiences. Which also attracted the entire audiences attention. Why, because no matter how they phrased a story, statement are remark. They utilized these words with sophistication..
My point is this. Words can be meaningful are damaging. Depending on the level of communication & person's open mindedness in understanding. And if the intent is to motivate or to relate constructive criticism. We must be mindful of what we communicate in making our points. Which brings me to this story.
Two weeks before my son deceased. We shared an opinionated conversation. He needed me to listen, and this was not unusual. We always touch basis about life and maturity. And I needed him to remain open minded. To be prepared for what we don't always have to agree on. But every relationship has to agree to communicate with the respect of the other person's feelings. And I know you're thinking this is a new world we live in. And people don't always respect each other. Well, that is the truth and reasoning to why we stagnant in our own growth to get along. Where we could of together listened for better understandings. Even the smallest of children can hold a mature conversation. All we have to do is take some quality time to listen. And allow them to respond if not ask us the adults for some directions. If we don't learn from our own children; some respect and maturity in being the parents.
So sons what am I saying is this; no woman knows a man better than he knows himself. But no man really knows any woman better than she knows herself. And children can tell the difference. As they are watching & mentally recording the both of you; communicate if not demonstrating to them how there is a level in tone & carry. With a respect towards one another in understandings..
So before you cohabitate with any person. On the slope of feelings, underdeveloped maturity in certain areas where obligations have been appropriated to accept in making of a conscientious decision. Its easy to make a choice without consideration of knowing how much the other person is mentally invested.
So trust yourself knowing what you want is not always what you get; out of this life. Are neither another person. Until we cohabitate & learn the value of respect. Were presently we so often devalue one another. If not communicate in immaturity. Now apply this thinking to the relationship you will develop with different classes of people through life.
To one day figure out how much room is needed for us All to grow more; in ourselves.
The last words I said to my gc was this "no matter what always be true to yourself. Speak with confidence and trust in your feelings, never stop taking to God". And to my son never let anyone rob you of your peace of mind & joy.
Sons the man you choose to be. Is the man you must be able to look in respect in the mirror. And lead of those boys & girls; of your own seeds to grow & prosper in this new world.
