Fire & Water

I was a young girl, some call themselves a baby momma until they grew to respect becoming a woman. I was protected, directed and loved to raise a boy who became his own man. I learned from life my greatest mentor. I leaned on family and matured from my mistakes & choices. I found a peace of mind in picking my battles. I found the strength to fight; in a ring that could have divided us. Not becuase of the color of our skins. Love is divine not divided by man.

We don't have to look the same; or be older if not young at heart; to feel the fire once the water is damped. And tomorrow may be late; to fix was was never broken.

The worlds perception of single people is; either they are lonely and need somebody with our help? Wrong answer we as a people need to grasp more time to deal with the lingering issues in the baggage we carry in our self. In order to understand why single people chose their lifestyles, sacrifices to raise their children alone, if not experience people through dating?  Again, you would have to examine yourself. We never know one another until we are exhausted from fighting in this ring of life together. 

The reality Is this some people realize their own value in themselves; and what it is they can offer to someone else. And on the receiving end of this sometime we cohabitate with people who deny themselves any chance to be valued because they never saw it in themselves. So the rush is on and sometimes we label it as the Gold rush of expectations in a marriage if not common law relationships. To find ourselves on battlefields of; lengthy obligations, knotted investments and ties we struggle with one another to unknot. If not walking away from it all. Including any children involved for a peace of mind.

When a young man is filling his oats; he is stimulated by a female’s attention, physical attributes and a level of thinking. Young or Old this young man is not prepared to surrender. This young man is hunting his prey. And is it not always wise for young woman or older woman to hunt down a man. If so he could gather the perception you are a microwave presentation. Instead of a wife to build a palace with.

When a young girl is seeking her provider; she will utilize either her mind, body are conversation. Depending on her background and instructors; the reality is some young girls are traditional and some are learning as they grow.

When we commit ourselves to one another in communication; we gain families, children and friends. That is also attached to our bags of happiness, joy and pain. So how is it we always end up on the battlefields of life, If we can figure out why are we still not complete when we both communicated or not what either of us; had to originally bring to the table, young or old. A man's needs are simple as he has stated for generations; support, loyalty and the cookie, ladies. And for the record we must cease in confiding in one another regarding what our men has asked of us; to remain in the ring fighting for the struggles for us to stay together.  

Woman and men; we both struggle to communicate what is not that complicated in our private lives, and around the globe people are attached to each other no matter how we mixed those ingredients; in who will surrender and who will be the first to release the control? So that we both are more open about ourselves. And it does not matter who speaks on this topic around the world, our households or families. You may not have what daddy and mom kept in private behind those closed doors of laughter, if not exposed in tears. At this age in your life for you it has to make since to find your own joy and a peace of mind to live. 

Until we mature in our personal feelings, enough to respect one another to communicate more beyond our tempered frustrations, and unpacked baggage. The Fire & Water will dissolve our existence.    

Females/Males

 

Welcome ladies, we meet again at a space we either wear our crowns of Glory or Arrogance. Regardless which one of them. You are the females that makeup a Woman.

We have witnessed the disrespect at a level in which we are both guilty of our behaviors. In both males and females. And more than often the same sex in addressing one another with using the words "B!tch or Whore", the lines of human respect are crossed. But the reality is this; we live in a world of acclimated mindsets disputing "respect" for one another. We all have tempers but limitation of insults will fix the broken internal issues. We as females & males must dig deeper into respecting ourselves. Or who be those mentors of our sons and daughters? In a beautiful world of dysfunctional communications we have all demonstrated over collaborations.

A woman is recognized by the naked eyes of her beauty, intellectual ways, acts of kindness, nurturing spirit. If not by her tenacity & sassy way’s; to identify her goddess descriptions. But not limited to her value in being a female or a woman.

When a woman embarks on a conversation with a younger female or even her equal; tread light in how you approach a woman in a female approach. We all possess our own behaviors in wearing our Crowns and Arrogance when speaking with one another in all climates.

For over generations this female of all races has been the objective in conversation; over what it is that increases her desire to stay in the competition; with herself or other sisters young and old.

This passage is significant because over generations; our audience is the younger generations of females, males. And older woman & men. We seek of respect, love and to value us. In the skin we have acclimated and from the history of who we become based on what a female or male has taught us from children. We are the makeup of our Crowns of Glory & Arrogance that represent us in a presence.   

I noticed when speaking to a younger woman, she raises the eye browse of conversation. And for the older woman in her presence. They either respect one another's level of maturity if not understanding from lack to having experience. Because not all females are nurtured in areas of their minds verses what they have been taught to present of their bodies. Again, over generations we have manage to mask who did not learn or was taught  by who was in their lives. So here we are in another generation to compliment what we both can learn together.   

It's been said; a female can't raise a man on her own. Well its been a proven fact over generations those same females matured as woman. In a mental & physical space; of showing those boys now men how to use their mental and physical weight in every area of their life with; laboring in your own house, seek knowledge in a book and opportunities in life, plan for your financial growth, play chess for it is a thinking mans game, get involved in a contact sport for physical and mental growth, venture into travel pages around the world, before you commit to falling in love and creating real responsibilities and false obligations before you can take care of yourselves. 

Until we both the female and male; place value more in ourselves it does not matter; who we marry, cohabitate with or even choose to deal with in a relationship. Both of our Crowns of Glory & Arrogance, is the determining factor in whether this boy are man chooses who to surrender to if not deal with in this life for a moment over time. Unless God steps in and initiates another plan. 

Our human expectations we place on one another; start with the expectations we should of first placed on ourselves.