COLORISM

“Don’t fear failure. Fear the absence of Progress.”

I met up with an old friend to celebrate; a birthday. And during that time we got some things off of our minds one regarding; why do people come in and of out of our lives is when this friend looked at me and said “live your life with an Intention”.

This friend broke down life experiences from a different view and in

So many ways; we forget about ourselves trying to fit into a space with everyone else. This friend had been married at an early age. Finding out later in life people will change their minds. Eventually that 2^nd chance came to start a new chapter in life again.

So many ways people who never resolve their “hurts” often they continue living it by hurting someone else.

So many ways we release and invite people back into ourselves. That resemble the things we are not prepared to release and change.

So many ways we avoid to communicate with one another in mending that “ant pile” that grew into mountains.   

So many ways we miss out on our joys and happiness to struggle in the things and people that remain broken; instead of choosing in us to fix. Of those things we continue to live with.

I also learned in the space we sat of our celebration; how we miss the opportunity to connect because of a state of mind we live in of our own Colorism of confusion. I shared a business idea with this friend of why I write the real stories of Life. And in it all I can see is the Colorism of beauty.  

This friend went on sharing her opinion; in those papers created over generations something was implemented into people of all colors; to live better, if not for people who were taught to work harder, for someone else. With that being said “you can only teach what you know, and allow people to learn if they see room in their life to grow”.

I also took away this; people will hurt one another with intention and demand human respect, for their own choices. People will function in a mindset of what they have been taught or live in.

There is a cycle of circumstances among us. The dynamics are working through us. Relationships are weak in of areas we refuse to improve in us, individually. Our visions are endless once we stop redundant conversations, of who has accomplished what we have a real commitment in. Our monies will either grow if not depreciate because of what we invest in; of our time and vision.   

Divorce rates have increased in every race; and if we study our past family relationships there is an abundance of compromise & secrets, and there is no perfect persons.  

Rewriting history requires our colored feet to move 2 steps forward, not another 400 years backwards. The truth sometimes is hard to digest; in areas we are forced to answer back to ourselves.

Queen Suga

I have taught the young woman invited into my life is this; always love yourself first; just in case a boy or man, tends to make you feel second.

Watching for the first time Queen Suga the 7^th episode, it brought to light real situations people do deal with. 

Such as:

Age is a factor in considering being in a 
life commitment sharing with that person what you have managed; to establish.

Cross gender relationships

The side piece who at the end became; the love he found in a second chance.

Friends crossing the line to see if what they knew as kids can turn into a passionate relationship.

Respecting one another for who we are, not what we expect out of one another.

A mother reminding her son; don’t give all of yourself and forget who you are.

Understanding your own values and beliefs.

How lies can cause people pain, including the entire family who already knew; but everyone has to learn what’s worth fighting for. If not when it’s time to let go.

Family struggles of hidden depressions, and being told the truth of who made the sacrifice; in order for the family to maintain.

Most importantly teaching our youth that sex is not love, but physical attractions do cause an action.

   

Study War No More

I often ask; is life like a movie as we set back and watch the good and bad to play out in it? So at the end of this episode, we can walk away with a multitude of messages.

I walked away with this "no matter what we strive for in this life, It’s only time that will allow us a second chance" to figure out our own purpose,  before we come back together, again.

Bus Stop

In the end any woman will ask "why did it have to happen, in response to any mans reasoning in "why are you leaving".

The future is full & bright, but why can't we stop packing around the past; in our old hurt bags?

Who cannot  recall a moment of feeling; Lost or even Abandoned. Even with people who are still around us standing. Watching us carry those old bags; filled with anger, hurt and even more frustration.

One day a good hearted Samaritan observed; how our overbearing bags were carrying us. As we struggled to get to our next destinations. Is when that good Samaritan said this man with all his strength & this woman who seeks his love continue to  struggle for carrying those old bags; of life's disappointments. And no matter who steps in to carry that load with either of them; the choice was always there for us to let go of being controlled. By that old baggage we deny of carrying around.

The point is this without that old luggage we carry around; what are the chances we could reach the next bus stop without that old weight; of holding ourselves back for is waiting ahead. 

100

There is a 50 percent chance our lives will change.  The other 50 percent depends on the choices we will make.

And If we do the math correct today it will sum up to why;  those situations did not add up in our lives. Simply divide by what we invest in of our time, and how much is not added back, in it.

I don't know who it is that is listening to anything. We don't know who really is seeking anything new, of human change. But what we collectively identify with is this; we control more than 50 percent of our own life decisions. And the other 50 percent we allow of; someone or something else to subtract or add  back.

Live this life with little regrets and everyday seek to add back that missing 50 percent.

Love. Peace & Respect

Snake’s

This is real life, although we're playing chess in it. Pick a position and stay true to yourself in it. 

A snake is known to man to be a dangerous specie’s, and the snake’s adversary is the hunter who watches silently. So is life really like a movie? Where collectively we sit back and watch for the good and bad parts, in it.

If we could make a prediction of what a snake would do next; would we initiate the next move to silence it, because predictions with random actions is not always the right answer. So why not watch and closely listen?

We all know once the winter comes; all living things seek shelter. And in the springtime there is a feeling of calming nature. Until that summer heat; brews up some escalated energy, for the fall to prepare us for a new season.   

Who would of thought; we would make it through all these seasons? Of knowing  living among us all is dangerous species; we love, hate and fear.

The moral of this passage is; snakes crawl and walk around among us.  Be wise in the seasons to come. 


Love.Peace.Serenity

WIFE

 A wife is identified by what her husband sees of her in his own eyes & feels in his heart, because not everyone prays to the same GOD; for guidance and permission.

The purpose of this passage is for the both of us to keep our mind, bodies and soul in a place we never forget; to connect.

“But before we both make a vow please proof-read mine. To ensure I do understand going in your desire as a man; is to never forget how to make you feel 10 feet TALL. And appreciate you enough to know; you will fight to not let us go. 

 So once

The both of us gives our all; how do we find the balance to keep from taking one another for granted?

The two of us don't desire to touch; let's not be ashame to arouse the places we neglect to appreciate. 

The fire dims remember that place only we created; to light it all over again. 

The egos flare; let’s go ahead and agree nothing is worth loosing “YOU & ME”.

The insecurities creep; remember it will always be me & u who appreciates the little things we both mix in our morning cup of coffee.

The hunger pains hurt; and you or I desire a different plate. Let’s shut it all down; and communicate how the both of us can still make it work.  

The money is debited more than being credited; how about we figure out what we together can live with. Not later deal with.

The physical is no longer beautiful; can we work out together in places we never forget each other.  

You know it all, or I talk too much; let’s figure it out; if u need space and I walk away.  Who is waiting to taste what together we have made.

We no longer kiss, and say I love you; it’s time we look back at the person with whom we chose to go forward with.

We are both lost in life’s fire; can I be the water you thirst for in your desert?

The moral in this vow is we’re not all prepared to be a wife, or neither a husband. Only time can prepare us for the Best Part of one another.

Work Place Topic

Start your morning off right with a coffee plan designed for your day. Do not be overwhelmed with the small workplace concerns. Throughout this 8 -12 hour day, make it your own “to win this working battle”.

“To please a human being means we come with no “faults or short comings”. And we all know that is not humanly possible”.

Start of this day off with choosing your own battles to fight; wisely:

During the day: prepare your mind to walk away; with what you put into this day.

End of the Day: take your positive or negative energy home, and either choose your next battle to fight or leave the battles behind; for tomorrow has already prepared it's own.   

In the beginning, I did not understand the importance of molding myself when it came to understanding people; until I learned the importance of communicating "in areas" we are not so developed, in. 

So on my remaining journey;

I start my day carefully; choosing my battles.

During my day: my mind is set; on receiving less and giving more than people can process. Therefore we both win. 

End of the Day; my positive energy belongs to me. Something people can process whether or not; they choose a positive or negative mindset. 

 Life is what you make it. 

Mirrors

Love who you are; not what People are looking for.

If I communicate openly and show you who I am, will you do the same in return? Friends are hard to find, but knowing what kind of friend you have; truthfully makes the difference.

If we disagree can we trust each other, to discuss our disagreements only between one another? Because most of the time we both will go around this friendship, talking to other people to vent.

If you know you’re never wrong, because of the people you run to will never point out your faults; will any friendship last in seasons to come? Because most of time; people harness allow build up in their hearts.

If you ever get caught in your childish ways; and mom can always say “my child has a good heart”, who do you think will take the time out to care?

I was in the grocery store on yesterday immediately a handsome man said “nice legs”, I did not look into his eyes right away, I simply replied from the side “thank you with a smile” as I completed the call I was on. This man continued to watch me talk, is when I hung up. He then said listening to you it sounds you care about people. But sometimes allow yourself to receive back what you seem to give a lot. I said great advice. He proceeded to talk about how God wants us to say a few words to people and cut it off. I ask are you a minister, bishop or deacon in the church. He replied with a smile “a fireman”. I ask are you married with children. He said “Yes, but I’m separated with 7 & 7”. I said separated is not divorced and often within 2 years people get back together. He smiled and said we all got problems. So what is yours? I replied everyone does not always have “problems” most of the time we create our own “situations”; I have found balance in my life. He then said what is my purpose for talking to him. I replied without a long statement and said “you had an intention for me knowing you were separated, and I was a woman who was minding her own business”.

The moral of this passage is we are so quick to judge; so how can we learn something new from each other, in what we keep doing to one another, without looking into the MIRROR?

I will say this “knowing” who I love the most; I can live with myself and choices. What I’m not going to do is allow people to change my mind to accommodate their pop -up emotions. Therefore understand the type of people WE choose to; allow into our life, release out of your life, or hold onto passing bye in time. That includes married people who are seeking for peace.

No one can love you, better than you. I have learned to listen with an open mind and talk, at a speed of 100. I had to learn how to care & be supportive.  I do know the peace in when 2 keep it silent.

Nice Guy

We’ve all tried that season before. And for no reason at all; it brought out the bad in us all!

Time requires a statement that sticks, the one people will challenge but respect to never forget, what you established.

It’s time to Pipe it up, and establish your own Value & Worth, bring to the table an established mindset; no more pipe dreams  & long winded non conducive conversations. Hunt down your investments then proceed to select your top horse if not stallion; to ride until you see “a vision with you riding in it”.

Watch the breakdown

·       Power is over-rated, wisdom is intimidating, money is being bartered in taking for granted, respect is under appreciated if not respected. And to communicate results in violence if not debates. So be nice 4 what? Know your |Value & Worth!

Krispy Kreme

Traveling this weekend with my family was a delight. We brought Krispy Kreme and I'll tell you why.

Life is busy. And we all know that time continues to move. So I reached out to the family and coordinated a plan.  Sometimes things happen that interrupt our attention. Don't get so cluttered with stuff; you forget what is going on.

One day I received a call. It was an old friend I checked on. This person shared "when times were tough,  I saw your struggles". I shared those were not struggles my friend, life was shaping me to endure until the end". Now where do we pick up in this friendship. She replied I've lost so much. I replied, "stuff is replaceable, people are not". But I'm still your girl in storms are not. She said you're still my same "girl" with good karma!

So back to the Krispy Kreme story. I remember looking to my right seeing this box of Krispy Kreme donuts. So thankful for the queen eating them. As my mother chattered with laughter, chewing those Krispy Kreme donuts. But that's not how my stories end. I plan to love, laugh & live as hard as I can. With the people who are in my life; seeking balance & peace.

If you have people in your life that you can't imagine being without. Go ahead and fix what is not really broken, more than often we do create our own problems. We all have disagreements & visions. But before this day ends; value every breathing moment we live in.

-Angela L. 

Housing

We are familiar  with the term "FEAR". The "feared of emotion" we work in of accepting it.

Allow yourself to live the life you dream of or plan. For tomorrow will spike in another increased  rate of .025%. Approval is at its lowest rate of (5.1), what average working American can afford a $2000 a month payment? Evaluate the demographics, housing inventory because upgrades may not be included.

Prepare a plan that fits your budget, a life style can be adjusted. And when tomorrow happens you can relax in a peaceful state of mind.

The housing inventory is limited; if you're expectations are weigh above your cash reserves. And 3 bureau credit scores, FICA & debt ratios. So lets better weigh out our options. And invest in paying closer attention; to what is obtainable to accomplish.

So after all these years of investing in the success of another investors visions. I decided to take a dip and research in "home ownership", and what programs are available to assist. Just be prepared for a wide eyed opening understanding the requirements of "home ownership".

1. Prepare a budget that is obtainable once life happens.

2. Re-calculate how much of a short-term & long-term invested you can commit too; once the commitment is interrupted? Most of us assume we life figured out, because we have a master minded plan. Then illness occurs, loss of income, loss of life or someone decides to walk away. If not contributes emotionally & financially in the same way. 

3. An excellent credit score is 660 to 800. But how many essential workers  can meet an adjustable rate mortgage. And manage unexpected bills included college ( even with scholarships). If not the shadow of debt bondage. 

4.   Consistency, Performance and Knowledge holds the key can unlock doors   

5. It would behoove you to do inquire, research and compile information. But if you're not fully invested in your own plan; you may be sold a dream in a lane;  that is forever changing.

Remember ALL to do your "Monthly Budget", with whom you have or choose to not to grow with. 

I wrote this log in 2018. But in 2020 I'm prepared to be educated; once again.