Sons

Dedicated to our sons; define who you are in the man you work to become.

I told  my son as a child respect yourself in the world. Of course his tiny eyes glared at me with curiosity. But as time progressed I watched over what my child mentally processed. Of how his mother lived; in his presence.

I knew one day those tiny feet would grow out of my control. I knew one day the baby talk would turn into real words. I knew one day he would seek out his own destiny; is when real life would be waiting.

Sons you will seek a companion in this life to call your own; you will search in one another for guidance and growth. You will make decisions based on your feelings. You will learn in life that the things you trust in to believe are attached to people; that will leave you questioning  "Y". You will learn every gift is not sent from heaven.  Sometimes the best gifts come through WISDOM. But not everyone you meet will hand you a key. To open up the doors of the places you seek of; growth.

Sons one day your life will change in a miraculous way; stay prepared and focus for the night will eventually turn  into good days. Seek your own truth in the paths some people may  mis-guide  you. Find peace in your choices not all mistakes are made. Be strong in knowing how to walk away. Seek for your own understanding; in places you struggle to  prosper and grow. Your destination is not based on other people's approval!

What is meant to be will happen at the right time. Once you work on yourself things & the right people will fall in line, every time.

Self Service

Working on being a better person, is even more rewarding than being a better friend & or associate.

I care about people who enter my life. But sometimes we have to allow  people  to walk away. This is my story.

I allowed this person into my space who needed somebody in his life this time. In order for him to say to me "you never really needed me, but sometimes people do need help" , I would always reply to him " you have got to recognize when you need more help for yourself, before giving it back to those same people who always need an easy way out". This person would regress with an attitude of resentment.

Confrontation is a word that is used to identify a human attitude projected in a negative way. I hear it often utilized in the work place. In situations that are often created by people with the intention of hiding behind their manipulative; mindset. And if you do not respond to their authority in a manner beneath their level of communication, then you are associated with responding back; in a confrontational way of what was not expected to be voiced of your logic & personal opinion.

A Relationship is no different. Either we respect one another or create a confrontation to exist; in validating what we struggle with of one another's area of growth in communication. So do yourself a Self service by continuing to teach one another the difference.

I

-“Adversity causes some men to break; others to break records”

I received this quote this morning from a dear friend. And what I shared with this person opened up their entire eyes to be more conscience in this life.

To defeat some hard days of adversity you have to observe; who is the master in this distraction that you allow to keep entertaining; of your attention.

People change every day, and none of us are the same towards one another on any given day. So how will you get through this life filled with adversity that is working through people; who spend more than half of their time trying to figure out what they have not got passed of it; in their own lives?

                                                                             Maximize your Mindset

Until we change how we treat one another, a little adversity will continue in reminding us of “Y” we live on the same page of  four-seasons in this life.

Y

In times of separation; progression towards maturity & communication can salvage this generation.

At the beginning & end of every event in this life; is an answer to all of our questions of "Y".

Thank you for watching how; we all fall, and rise in the dynamics of our real life moments. Internally we're all wired by design. Physically we we're built to perform. And mentally we  respond amongst our own Colorism. On the outside we see ourselves, but underneath our skin  that same Colorism; flows in everyone of our generations.

If you have not accepted your own truth in this life; look at the people you really love in their eyes. And for one moment remove "I" to see "Y".

VALUES/MORALS

People can grant you what you want but how many people have a desire to give to you what you need.

We heard of the word “SOUL TIES”, and the meaning in real life experience is this “I’ve allowed you into a physical space and mentally over time I still yearned that penetration and thrust in my heart Soul ties.

People have known to have sexual relationships for years, even while in a committed relationship or marriage, and they don’t place a real title on this; simply because a real title does not exist. But soul ties are real where people have chosen someone else, but can’t find a reason to let go of what they enter back and forward into.

When a couple decides to constitute their relationship does it mean for life we only belong to one another. And if so why do those soul ties still exist; once we both decided to surrender into this marriage?

When a single person gives into their own submission of pleasing the opposite in attraction; can we honestly believe there is no physical emotion that connects and causes that final; explosion. Because not everyone walks away with a relief of stemmed pressured released from in between their legs.

When lovers figure out they can please one another in a physical space, but mentally they can’t figure out how to make it work; then when do we admit it to ourselves?

So that we are not all confused about how “infidelity” starts. And companionship-does not always involve sex” but “loneliness” can exist in any marriage, single person or relationship. Where lust is a title we all wear even if we are strong enough to not perform, it lurks in every human heart.

Deep down inside we’re all trying to figure out what we need to compliment what some of us have in our spiritual, physical and mental connection .

If we could no longer penetrate one another; could we still yearn to touch one another?

If we were no longer submissive to one another; could we still see the value in each other?

If we’re always seeking those soul ties; are we really satisfied with whom we have chosen to sustain with in our lives?

If we have been together and not figured out; what our foundation stands on, is marriage a title we should continue to spend time in; fixing on ourselves   trying to figure out why the peace of mind and happiness still don’t exist?

Again we’re all not meant to be husbands or wives, we’re not all meant to be lovers for life. We’re not all meant to be without companionship; unless we figure out; not everyone is seeking in us one another for forever, When our feet’s and hearts continue to wonder.

  

COLORISM

“Don’t fear failure. Fear the absence of Progress.”

I met up with an old friend to celebrate; a birthday. And during that time we got some things off of our minds one regarding; why do people come in and of out of our lives is when this friend looked at me and said “live your life with an Intention”.

This friend broke down life experiences from a different view and in

So many ways; we forget about ourselves trying to fit into a space with everyone else. This friend had been married at an early age. Finding out later in life people will change their minds. Eventually that 2^nd chance came to start a new chapter in life again.

So many ways people who never resolve their “hurts” often they continue living it by hurting someone else.

So many ways we release and invite people back into ourselves. That resemble the things we are not prepared to release and change.

So many ways we avoid to communicate with one another in mending that “ant pile” that grew into mountains.   

So many ways we miss out on our joys and happiness to struggle in the things and people that remain broken; instead of choosing in us to fix. Of those things we continue to live with.

I also learned in the space we sat of our celebration; how we miss the opportunity to connect because of a state of mind we live in of our own Colorism of confusion. I shared a business idea with this friend of why I write the real stories of Life. And in it all I can see is the Colorism of beauty.  

This friend went on sharing her opinion; in those papers created over generations something was implemented into people of all colors; to live better, if not for people who were taught to work harder, for someone else. With that being said “you can only teach what you know, and allow people to learn if they see room in their life to grow”.

I also took away this; people will hurt one another with intention and demand human respect, for their own choices. People will function in a mindset of what they have been taught or live in.

There is a cycle of circumstances among us. The dynamics are working through us. Relationships are weak in of areas we refuse to improve in us, individually. Our visions are endless once we stop redundant conversations, of who has accomplished what we have a real commitment in. Our monies will either grow if not depreciate because of what we invest in; of our time and vision.   

Divorce rates have increased in every race; and if we study our past family relationships there is an abundance of compromise & secrets, and there is no perfect persons.  

Rewriting history requires our colored feet to move 2 steps forward, not another 400 years backwards. The truth sometimes is hard to digest; in areas we are forced to answer back to ourselves.

Queen Suga

I have taught the young woman invited into my life is this; always love yourself first; just in case a boy or man, tends to make you feel second.

Watching for the first time Queen Suga the 7^th episode, it brought to light real situations people do deal with. 

Such as:

Age is a factor in considering being in a 
life commitment sharing with that person what you have managed; to establish.

Cross gender relationships

The side piece who at the end became; the love he found in a second chance.

Friends crossing the line to see if what they knew as kids can turn into a passionate relationship.

Respecting one another for who we are, not what we expect out of one another.

A mother reminding her son; don’t give all of yourself and forget who you are.

Understanding your own values and beliefs.

How lies can cause people pain, including the entire family who already knew; but everyone has to learn what’s worth fighting for. If not when it’s time to let go.

Family struggles of hidden depressions, and being told the truth of who made the sacrifice; in order for the family to maintain.

Most importantly teaching our youth that sex is not love, but physical attractions do cause an action.

   

Study War No More

I often ask; is life like a movie as we set back and watch the good and bad to play out in it? So at the end of this episode, we can walk away with a multitude of messages.

I walked away with this "no matter what we strive for in this life, It’s only time that will allow us a second chance" to figure out our own purpose,  before we come back together, again.

Bus Stop

In the end any woman will ask "why did it have to happen, in response to any mans reasoning in "why are you leaving".

The future is full & bright, but why can't we stop packing around the past; in our old hurt bags?

Who cannot  recall a moment of feeling; Lost or even Abandoned. Even with people who are still around us standing. Watching us carry those old bags; filled with anger, hurt and even more frustration.

One day a good hearted Samaritan observed; how our overbearing bags were carrying us. As we struggled to get to our next destinations. Is when that good Samaritan said this man with all his strength & this woman who seeks his love continue to  struggle for carrying those old bags; of life's disappointments. And no matter who steps in to carry that load with either of them; the choice was always there for us to let go of being controlled. By that old baggage we deny of carrying around.

The point is this without that old luggage we carry around; what are the chances we could reach the next bus stop without that old weight; of holding ourselves back for is waiting ahead. 

100

There is a 50 percent chance our lives will change.  The other 50 percent depends on the choices we will make.

And If we do the math correct today it will sum up to why;  those situations did not add up in our lives. Simply divide by what we invest in of our time, and how much is not added back, in it.

I don't know who it is that is listening to anything. We don't know who really is seeking anything new, of human change. But what we collectively identify with is this; we control more than 50 percent of our own life decisions. And the other 50 percent we allow of; someone or something else to subtract or add  back.

Live this life with little regrets and everyday seek to add back that missing 50 percent.

Love. Peace & Respect

Snake’s

This is real life, although we're playing chess in it. Pick a position and stay true to yourself in it. 

A snake is known to man to be a dangerous specie’s, and the snake’s adversary is the hunter who watches silently. So is life really like a movie? Where collectively we sit back and watch for the good and bad parts, in it.

If we could make a prediction of what a snake would do next; would we initiate the next move to silence it, because predictions with random actions is not always the right answer. So why not watch and closely listen?

We all know once the winter comes; all living things seek shelter. And in the springtime there is a feeling of calming nature. Until that summer heat; brews up some escalated energy, for the fall to prepare us for a new season.   

Who would of thought; we would make it through all these seasons? Of knowing  living among us all is dangerous species; we love, hate and fear.

The moral of this passage is; snakes crawl and walk around among us.  Be wise in the seasons to come. 


Love.Peace.Serenity

WIFE

 A wife is identified by what her husband sees of her in his own eyes & feels in his heart, because not everyone prays to the same GOD; for guidance and permission.

The purpose of this passage is for the both of us to keep our mind, bodies and soul in a place we never forget; to connect.

“But before we both make a vow please proof-read mine. To ensure I do understand going in your desire as a man; is to never forget how to make you feel 10 feet TALL. And appreciate you enough to know; you will fight to not let us go. 

 So once

The both of us gives our all; how do we find the balance to keep from taking one another for granted?

The two of us don't desire to touch; let's not be ashame to arouse the places we neglect to appreciate. 

The fire dims remember that place only we created; to light it all over again. 

The egos flare; let’s go ahead and agree nothing is worth loosing “YOU & ME”.

The insecurities creep; remember it will always be me & u who appreciates the little things we both mix in our morning cup of coffee.

The hunger pains hurt; and you or I desire a different plate. Let’s shut it all down; and communicate how the both of us can still make it work.  

The money is debited more than being credited; how about we figure out what we together can live with. Not later deal with.

The physical is no longer beautiful; can we work out together in places we never forget each other.  

You know it all, or I talk too much; let’s figure it out; if u need space and I walk away.  Who is waiting to taste what together we have made.

We no longer kiss, and say I love you; it’s time we look back at the person with whom we chose to go forward with.

We are both lost in life’s fire; can I be the water you thirst for in your desert?

The moral in this vow is we’re not all prepared to be a wife, or neither a husband. Only time can prepare us for the Best Part of one another.