Today we will discuss baby momma a title some that does not
define all females. Whether young or old we possess freewill in making choices
and decisions.
And figuring out human promises is made to be broken. Expectations
are overrated. Boys need space and time to mature into men. Females need time
to figure out love is an action word. Therefore, men need mental space for themselves;
to learn how to communicate, what factor in of their commitment and how to
demonstrate an action of showing accountability of what they will make an invested
amount of time in to stay or walk away. Children are a blessing. But for every
female and male that consecrates it is not a confirmation God’s plan is not
wrapped around whether we act in our own intentions.
Therefore every person is not promised to. Why, all people
in any relationship are tested in the fire. And some of us stumble with a glass
of water. Marriage is commitment with or without kids. And In relationships people
are working in the relationship it to figure out themselves, first. Why, well
let’s apply logic to fantasy; how can I find happiness in someone else. If I
have yet to define in myself; children add to our lives. Its ups to us to
figure out our life.
And just because our mothers and fathers married or not; we
will never know what parents discuss behind closed doors. Marriage requires
maturity, trust and work. Because no one can promise I can fix you, if I am
broken.
And just because we cohabitate in relationships; signs of dysfunctional
behavior exists; such as arguing and harboring the kids from the other parent
who is committed vs. the blood parent who responds after “text & voicemails”,
then we must ask ourselves a question how can we place expectation on anyone
else. So now the perception in aligned let’s dive in to a mental space where we
can clean up our own mental and emotional baggage.
Skeletons exist for a
reason. God did not create perfect people; God created a people with a purpose.
Biological Parents: A paternal child is shared between the biological
blood parents.
A Baby grows in stages: this baby is innocent, and
vulnerable throughout the stages of his or her life. One day this baby will
recognize; their hands, tiny feet, eyes, and ears. Throughout their course of
life from age day 1 to 99, life has taught us we are born once a child and
return back to the developments changes over time. Why, because we all can
relate that it takes a Village to raise 1 child, but not all villages teach
with the same values, morals and beliefs. Where father time is the cycle we
cannot deny of the truth. About our behavior in how we choose to raise our
kids. No pun intended we can attest there are times as grown female and men we
revert back to our baby ways.
Woman & Men/Boys & Girls: It’s a joy to be a mother
& father if not parents together. It’s a peace of mind to have a plan prior
to being a parent. So how anyone say “I regret having kids”, now each person
has their own reasoning to why, some people intensely seek to be loved, in another
person whose intention; is only to enjoy the pleasure.
Females: if you are fertile. There is a chance in penetration
of a sexual act; of non-contraceptive or protected if not planned.
Responsibility will show neg. or positive in less than a 48hr. period if not 9
months to be delivered.
Males: If you are not prepared to sacrifice for another
life. And what I mean is even if she is not a wife type. Be more honest with
yourself to avoid the next step. But if you are man who is compassionate and
honest with himself; safeguard your choices before expressing your values,
morals and belief. Why, because again every female is not your wife. But the
female is waiting want a fair fight to win your heart.
Family unity: If a female or male inherits a family of the opposite
in this relationship, marriage or heat of the moment. Thank God because not every
family is invested in a fantasy family. What
I mean is this people have their intentions behind children. Listen close. When
you recognize your own personal issues some people think twice about who they
invite into their lives. And when you bare children they either suffer are
acclimate themselves into a stable lifestyle.
I heard a story the other day; a young man said I always
argue and in jail behind my baby momma. I try to do right by my kids. But this
female won’t let me be. I started another relationship and this woman has kids
as, well. But I see the potential in both of them. As a young I don’t get how a
female struggle with a man who will. And wait around for a man who takes his
time.
I heard families say. The young lady took the children away.
And it was not because we did not try to do right by the children. It was the
baggage our family refused to not carry; of another person not in the bloodline
of this family. Now we love our people but when children are involved what is
the intense need to leverage the children for. Where a family who will step up;
are denied for not being interested in the invited guest who carried old
baggage.
I heard a child say;
I’m not happy not because I don’t love my parents, mother or father. It’s because
one or other cannot get their life in order. And I’m not too small to
understand how I feel. I’m too small to understand why they keep making the
kids; carry the load of their adult baggage. .
If our parents did not teach of everything at one time, if
we can still say I was not taught, or did not know, then it’s time for our village
to figure out; what the old baggage is about.
The title Baby Momma was
created. But females you don’t have to wear the name validate your choice to be a mother. When a man or boy values who you are; it will not matter where you are (mentally or physically).
I would like to pay
respect to all the woman and young girls, boys and men for enriching our lives
with the life of a child or children. But in 2020 we are on stuck on repeat of the
history in our families. one day a child will grow up; and wonder how
and why did I end up carrying so much of my parent’s old baggage.
If this does not
apply to your situation; then step outside and look around some parents and villages
remain lost; look in the eyes of a child who is carrying all of his or her peoples mental baggage.
